Getting your own way never means winning, sometimes it just means you thought more highly of yourself. It could also mean you just wore someone down to the point they just gave in? Either way, it is a type of selfishness. A self centered way of saying, you are better than you opponent!
If winning is all you think about, life is going to just pass you by, with absolutely no joy in it. Losing is part of life, and not always in a way that you are actually losing anything, but gaining much! We tend to have the idea to achieve anything, to go anywhere we have to be the winner. This is not so, if we can handle loss at times we stand to gain more and understand more of life.
Winning is not all about sporting events, etc.. But about being humble in our relationships, even to the point where someone else's feeling become more important than your winning. Their success becomes as important as yours. Also when we lose, what we may think is a golden opportunity, and settle for the fact we have lost and give up, we may be missing out on the biggest win of our lives.It may mean it was just the others persons time.
Something better may be just around the corner.
So accepting what we think is a loss, becomes a certain win if we can look at loss, as not a loss. Maybe a jump start to something better. We just need to be a little more patient and maybe a little more humble. If we tend to look outside of our own little box, listen a little closer, go a little slower, more genuine wins are on the way.
They will be wins, that everyone will want to celebrate with you, because they are part of the win, and not an opponent, not an enemy! Philippians 2:4 says, "Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others."
Jesus sacrifice at the cross, to most, looks like a loss, but He never felt that. His giving His life for us, losing His life on the cross of Calvary, was a decisive win for mankind.
Sometimes being willing to lose, is the most loving and winning thing we will ever experience. Especially when we learn that winning means losing, and losing means winning!